There’s something about being in your 20’s. It’s like you want to have it all together (and are sometimes expected to have it all together) but you also are falling apart faster than a game of Jenga. From surviving college and trying to live your best life, while handing in a 15-page paper the next morning that you just started a day ago (procrastination at it’s finest,) to graduating and trying to find a job. I’ve heard this a million times but your 20’s are for f*ck up’s and hiccups. You learn tons of lessons, meet people, lose people, find yourself, lose yourself, and find yourself again. While going through the phases of life, growing up spiritually, paying bills, adulting, and just trying to stand up on your own while balancing fun and friends…it gets overwhelming. Granted, some people have been holding themselves up since they were teens, which a lot of us, for the most part, have used to our advantage.
I’m not seasoned in my 20’s, I’m still in the early chapter. But honey, it’s already been a journey. You really have to make the most of it. Aside from being broke, make the attempt to take trips and travel! Now I know, “how am I going to travel if I don’t have any money.” That’s a good point. I’m not saying travel to Europe and rent a Ferarri BUT just go somewhere, maybe in a surrounding state. A lot of the time we’re comparing ourselves to what we see online or maybe our peers who are “pump faking” [When a person’s actions give the illusion of doing one thing when their intent is another (via urban dictionary)]. It’s hard to do merely because we all want to be great, make money, travel, look good, feel good, be in love, and be mentally and physically wealthy because that’s what we see and that’s what our society has drilled into our minds. As millennials, I feel we’re always trying to prove ourselves more than the average person. Whether if we have to jump through hoops, do a cartwheel and land in a handstand; we will do it TWICE. Catch my drift? Now if we didn’t do it twice, there would be some form of judgment, because…. society.
A lot weighs on our shoulders and honestly, for me I’m always overwhelmed. I’m always trying to map my life out and put things where I feel they are supposed to be and yet it never works out that way (on rare occasion do my plans go as planned) but for the most part, I end up in a completely different space. I’ve learned from a friend to control what you can control. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still put the work in. Without work nothing will happen, it’s not going to just fall into your lap (no sweetie, it doesn’t work like that).
So anything you do in this life, enjoy it, make the most out of it, take risks, be uncomfortable, and hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. At this age, make as many mistakes as you can, learn how to handle and resolve them, then keep it pushing! There’s nothing you can do to control it, just turn it into a positive and apply it to your wisdom. You’ll probably use it again sometime later on in life (or next week). I know it can be a wave of confusion and also frustration, I’m going through those waves now and probably for the next 6 years I’ll still be going through these waves. BUT, I’ll make sure I have a surfboard to make the best of it. It’s all about mindset because the world is at our fingertips.
Peace & Blessings,